CSSM MB Summer Missionary Manual - Standards 10
Standards of Behaviour
J. Suicide
1. "Possible Indicators of Depression or Suicidal Tendencies"
a. Direct or indirect preoccupation with death
• verbal or written suicidal statement/references
• giving away personal belongings
• writing of a will
• previous attempts
b. Significant lifestyle changes
• loss of significant person through death/ divorce, separation
• loss of an object of affection (friend/ boyfriend, girlfriend)
• loss of health
• financial difficulties
• loss of status
c. Observable changes in behaviour or motivation
• decreased academic performance
• more attendance problems or lateness
• poor interpersonal relationships
• decrease in social activity
• substance abuse
2. Responding to the Threat of Suicide
Occasionally, we encounter a person who threatens suicide. The first thing to remember is that you should always take suicide statements seriously and respond accordingly. Keep in mind that most suicide threats are a cry for help and for someone to listen. The individual will usually tip you off by making statements like: Sometimes I just want to end it all. Life just isn't worth living anymore, if a person commits suicide, do they go to hell? Most people don't want to kill themselves... they just want to end the pain that they are feeling. Familiarize yourself with any community suicide intervention assistance that is available.
The following guidelines will give you helpful strategies when dealing with someone in crisis:
a. Don't minimize their pain.
b. Don't ask leading questions, rather reflect their feelings back to them.
c. Don't make promises that you can't keep.
d. Hear them out, listen and encourage.
e. Determine the seriousness of the individual's suicidal thoughts. The more detailed the plan, the more serious the threat, the greater the likelihood that the individual will act upon his plan. Be aware of specific dates, times, methods and any advanced preparation already completed.
f. Remind them that God hasn't turned His back on them (Romans 8:38-39).
g. Assure them that you are concerned and you would like to put them in touch with someone who can help.
h. Don't take on the role of a therapist.
i. Keep them safe, inform the parents and seek professional help.